Privacy is at the heart of Sorry, Not Invited. Here's how it works.
The Privacy Promise
When you rate a guest, your partner cannot see your ratings. Period.
This is intentional — it allows both of you to be completely honest without worrying about causing offense or arguments.
What's Private vs. Shared
🔒 Private (Only You See)
- Your individual category ratings (1-5 scores)
- Your overall impression of each guest
- Any notes you add to your ratings
👥 Shared (Both Partners See)
- The guest list itself (names, emails, party sizes)
- VIP and Hard No designations
- Combined scores (after both have rated)
When Ratings Become Visible
Your individual ratings are never directly shown to your partner. However, once both partners have rated a guest, you can see:
- The combined/average score
- Whether you generally agreed or disagreed
- A summary comparison (not the exact numbers)
Why This Matters
Think about it: if your partner could see you rated their best friend a 2, that conversation gets awkward fast.
With private ratings:
- ✓ You're honest because there's no immediate judgment
- ✓ The algorithm does the "bad guy" work for you
- ✓ Discussions focus on outcomes, not blame