Here's how the magic happens — taking two sets of private ratings and creating a fair, combined result.
The Basic Formula
- Take each partner's ratings across all categories
- Calculate a weighted average for each partner
- Combine both partners' averages equally (50/50 split)
- Apply VIP/Hard No overrides
- Sort by final score
Equal Weight
Both partners' opinions count equally.
If you rate Aunt Linda a 5 and your partner rates her a 2
Her combined score is 3.5
Neither partner's vote counts more than the other's.
What About Disagreements?
The algorithm doesn't hide disagreements — it highlights them.
In the Combined View, you can see:
- ✅ Guests you both agree should be invited
- ❌ Guests you both agree shouldn't make the cut
- ⚡ Guests where you disagree significantly
💡 Tip
Those disagreements become your discussion points — the algorithm saves you from arguing about everyone by focusing your conversations on just the contested guests.
The Cutoff
Based on your target guest count, a horizontal line shows where the natural cutoff falls. Everyone above is "in," everyone below is "out."
📝 Note
You can always override the algorithm's suggestions — it's a starting point, not the final word.